Tips on Approaching Men
Are you tired of sitting there waiting to see if that guy across the room is going to approach you? Are you giving him signals that you are interested, but he hasn’t moved from his spot? Chances are that he is trying to work up the nerve to approach you. Don’t leave it up to him. Make the first move. More than likely he will be so relieved not to have to make the first move and the conversation will go much smoother. But what do you do? What do you say? How do you approach him without looking like you are desperate? Well, first realize that if you approach him, you have the upper hand. Approaching him takes all the pressure off of him to make the first move. And if you look and smell better than his college roommate, he will think he hit the jackpot. Then make sure you have something to say. To get the conversation started find something to ask his opinion about. Men love to give their opinion. Tell him you and your friends have a bet that you need him to settle, or an argument that you need his opinion on. Now that you have the conversation started, how do you keep it going? Read on.
Don’t disconnect from the conversation. If you keep excusing yourself he will get the impression that you are not really interested and he will move on to the next. If you want to go smoke, ask him to come with you. If you are leaving and coming back over and over, he will think you are trying to find a way out, and he may move on to someone else.
Don’t flirt with other men while around him. If you are talking to a guy that you are interested in he will not be impressed if you are flirting with his friends around him. He will think that you are not interested in him specifically and he will find someone to talk to who is.
Don’t talk about trouble in your life. Your job sucks, you just had a bad breakup, your fighting with a friend, don’t bring it up. In this initial conversation you need to keep it light and fun. Bringing up baggage will make you look like work instead of fun.
Don’t talk about your future as a couple. If you are having a great conversation and you come out with “What do you think about a June wedding?” he is going to backpeddle so fast you may get whiplash. If you feel like this could go somewhere, save the future talk until it has gotten past the getting to know you stage.
Don’t forget, guys like to be chased too. Women like to have someone show an interest in them, and men like that too. Because men usually do the chasing, when you pursue him it makes it that much more interesting for both of you.
So go out there and approach that guy that is trying to hide his staring. Get the conversation started and you will be glad you did. If he is not interested or doesn’t work out, you will at least meet a lot of people and possibly make some really great friendships on the way to finding “the one.”
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